How do I bond with my spirits?

First this is very important, treat spirits like they are your family. Give them respect, attention and love. Please talk to them often, light an incense or candle and welcome them into the home, give them offerings (leave the offerings by the vessel for at least 24 hours before dumping it). You can give them sweets, liquor, cigars, coffee, food, pretty much anything. Also, light candles and incense often. But again, I can not stress enough to treat them like family. If you do not treat them well, they will NOT do what you ask of them.